What is happening in Quarantine! The five stages to overcome Grief.

What stage are you in, as you grieve today? there is a big shadow that no one is talking about am sure by the end of this article you will have ascertained where you are and consider how to proceed forward, than. holding on to the past. 
The world population is growing rapidly, considering the past century; in 1900 there were fewer people (2 billion) compared to what there is today over 7.7 billion. This drastic change is determined; by the birth and death rate. Today the number of death rates caused by Corona Virus has increased rapidly with the United States of America taking lead. UK reporting over 684 people dying of Covid 19 in less than 24 hours. Seeing over 42,000 people dying since the outbreak started.  More than a millions people confirmed case in 203 countries.  All over the internet, press and social handles, are talking about corona virus, how many have died, mitigating measures, precaution measures and logistics for Vaccines among other. The biggest challenge is that  media,  is not talking about what is happening to people, emotionally- we are undergoing a lot of anger resentment,, depression, confusion yet for the first time in human history, we are all in grieve world wide, consciously and unconsciously every country on its own and God for us all.  Whether you want it or not everyone is grieving, the rich, the poor, the strong and the weak. You may ask yourself what am I grieving about? My answer to you would be; you are grieving over the loss of your way of life, your previous life.  Everything has changed. Irrespective of humans, being social creatures, we no longer gather together, associate, commune as it was in the past, imagine the fancy restaurants, events/ concerts, all the social gatherings, name them.  That loss; to humans, is like any other grief. Elisabeth Kubier in her famous book the Grieve circles; explained it simply; she said that the grief circles, takes “five stages” for anyone to overcome. She explained using an example of death. Imagine when you lose someone dear to you, a friend, family member or colleague, death becomes a loss to you, the first stage you undergone is denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and the final stage is acceptance. Therefore, in effect, you need to acknowledge these five stages for you to be able to move forward and relatively quickly and the reverse is true. What stage are you at? Today many of us are going through the first two stages,( anger and depression) and few are moving towards bargaining stage (Looking for meaning)   before accepting what is happening in reality. Be rest assured, that the world will not go back to being how it was few weeks back. Everything has and will change.  If you made it through another day, reading this article now, years from today you shall look back and remember this as the same old days that you went through by His grace. This should be a reason to jump up and give Him glory. Make memories for the people you love, and the blessings he has given to you. You need to accept the new world paradigm, and try to find purpose and new meaning.  
When I was a little boy in a small valley of Kilembe mines, the “Home of copper and cobolt” in that valley is a river called “Nyamwaba.” As a young boy, I loved to go out swimming, being a learners, I would swim from the riverside as the big boys and girls crossed to the other side of the river. This always got me jealousy. Wondering when I would also be able to taste the river weaves cross to the other side as my pears did. Matter of fact the enthusiasm was not only about crossing the river, it was about what come from the other side, often many children returned with sugarcanes from the nearby garden that boarded the river. One day I asked my elder brother to teach me how to swim across river “Nyamwaba.”  His advice was simple, he said, “Whenever you are in any water, never try to fight it, be calm and move with its flow, and direction” whenever you dive be assured to get out from the other lower side of the river in which it flows, move with the flow but keep course to where you want to reach. From that moment my whole perspective about swimming change, I started to reason out why; the other children swam downstream to cross, they never crossed straight to the other side.  Whenever they wanted to come to my side, they had to walk upstream ahead, and swim downstream to my side. You can as well apply this principle in your life today, during this lockdown, try and flow but do not lose course of your direction. The power to determine what is normal is within you. What you do now, the choices you make will determine the new world. Let go of the past mental picture from your head because that wall is no longer present anymore; be present with what you have now and craft yourself to what is sustainable and to what works. 
Moses in Psalms  90:12 prayed to God to “teach me how to number my days” in effect he was asking God to make him realise that each day is a blessing and a gift, irrespective of the challenges obstacles and stress you are going through at the moment.  Never forget of the gift of each day given and blessed to you. Imagine! If you had one hour to live, who would you call? What would you say to them? What are you waiting for? Do it now, call them, and tell them, how much you love them how they are a blessing in your life. Those people you are waiting on will not always be there and neither shall you, do not take them for granted. I want to remind you that life is a vapor, you are here one moment and gone the next. You have forget how fragile life is, you wait for thanks giving to give thanks, you wait for Sunday to pray and praise the Lord, you wait for charismas to give gifts, wait for Valentines day to show love, you always wait for the clock to tick to make life worth living. ” I want to urge you to start making each day of your life count, live the moment that is why you are a human being, you live the moment not the future, when you start living your second, the minute, hour, day, week, month and year will take care of themselves. The scripture reminds us that this is the day “the day” that the Lord has chosen for you, live it rejoicing and being glad in it. 
Stop waiting for something to happen so that you can make something happen. Make something happen all the time. After the lord had gotten Moses and the Israelite’s through the Red sea, witnessing king pharaoh and his men drown to death, they never waited for Sunday to celebrate, Moses and Mariam started singing and celebrating and praising the Lord with the “song of the sea.” What are you waiting for? Give Him praise for his mercy and love endures forever. A friend of mine once told me that those awaiting for the second coming of Jesus would never see him while those that have welcomed him are already are living and experiencing his goodness love and mercy. Let us live each second like it is our last, let us be real human beings that live the moment, with his guidance and wisdom we shall overcome. Be blessed as you live each day of your life to the fullest rejoicing and celebrating his goodness.  
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