How they are dumping GARBAGE in YOU.Rewrite your story. Dr. RWAKISETA Herbert


Why is it, you can never allow anyone to step on the gas, yet you can allow someone take over the steer wheel while driving?
Every day bring you plenty of opportunities that will get you upset, frustrated, offended and push you to think of giving up. May be your salary has been deducted, keeping at home is challenging you, your promotion did not go through as earlier anticipated, someone shouted at you, someone did not fulfill their promise as planned, your business trip was cancelled.  You do not know when all this will end. Let me a sure you that life is full of inconveniences, expect interruptions, difficulties in managing people and fulfilling your expectations. The only power people will ever have over you is the power you surrender or hand to them. I have heard it said that in life, 10 percent of what happens to you wholly depends on 90% on how you choose to respond. Therefore, your response determines your action. To determine your daily action, you need to start each day positive, hopeful and confident expecting Gods favour. Often in time, we are upset on smaller things such as your child refusing to eat breakfast, refused the toy you bought them among others. Too often, you have lived with wrong approach to life. You think your happiness will come from your control of this and that. You think you can have everything going your way always. It will never be realistic, because you need to come to a place where you are in conformity with yourself, and accept that it will not always be you. Do not expect everyone to treat you right make you happy. Make up your mind that no matter the situation, what happens and does not happen, you will stay in peace and enjoy each day as it comes. Life is too short to be upset and offended. If you allow circumstance to control your day and joy, you will always have reasons to be discouraged and unhappy. 
Quit giving away your power. Know that God is still on the throne watching over you as long as you stay connected to him, everything will be ok. His plans are not to destroy you but to prosper you. One thing I have learnt all of my life is never to pray to God to take away circumstances but rather see me through them because it is after that process that you become. Changing the story of your life to a new praise and experience. Do not pray to God to change someone else, without first changing you. In John 14:27 Jesus reminds you not to allow yourself be agitated and disturbed. It is a choice you have to make each morning and throughout the day of your life.  In effect, Jesus says that the things upsetting you right now do not have to upset you no more. If you make adjustments and change your approach to life, you will be happy in spite of the challenges and circumstances. Do not allow negative people steal your joy and happiness; learn how to rise above things. A friend of mine once told me a story that, whenever he visited friends together with his wife, invariably, she would come up with something offensive. He would become upset and ruin his joy and happiness with his friend. Sometimes he would leave the event and head back home. It got to a time when the stopped attending events any more, giving excuses. Not until he put himself together and told his wife up straight about her conduct. She was offended but later understood and today they are happy attending all events together. He had allowed what she said and did control him to an extent of avoiding his friends gathering. Just like when you say, someone makes you sad. You give away your power and admission over their control on you. People will always have a right to do what they have to do as long as it is legal. That is why you have a right not to be offended. What a person says or does should not define who you are. Their opinion should not determine your self-worth. Let whatever they say about you bounce back like water off a ducks back. 
Moses the greatest leader had to deal with such when his relatives never approve his wife. He was never upset, he did not argue neither criticise them. He kept his peace with himself and wife. However later the most talkative and vocal critic from the bride’s family contracted leprosy and died. In life, you do not have to respond to every critic neither do you have to prove yourself to anyone. Stay on the highway speak peace and love and let God fight your battles. In Luke 10:5-6 Jesus sent his disciples out in different homes, he instructed them to speak peace to every household telling them in effect that if they did not receive it, the peace they would offering, would come back to them. This means that you need to first be at peace with yourself and later with those around you. Even though they do not take your peace, you will have played your part and relieved yourself.
I recently walked in a supermarket with my friend to buy some fruits. On asking the attendant if the fruits, where fresh, he responded arrogantly and rudely. I did not mind him; I picked those that looked fresh and payed with a smile grin and wishing him a blessed day. My friend looked back and exclaimed how the attendant was so rude at us; he further asked me whether I was that nice to everyone. Without any, though at what he had asked all I told him was that I had decided and made up my mind not to allow anyone ruin my day in any way. The store attendant had all the reasons to be angry and rude. Who knows what he had been through that day? I had the right not to mix in his confusion and disappointment’s, which I did with a positive attitude. David J Pollay author of the law of the Garbage truck told a story about an incident that happened to him as he was in a cab in middle New York City when a car jumped out from a parking place that was right in front of their cab. The cab driver suddenly slammed the breaks so hard that they made such a noise as the tires squealed. Fortunately, the cab stopped an inch from the bumper of the other car. The driver of the other car come out slumping his door, shouting with a furious face in anger. The cab driver who was composed looking on just smiled and waved at him. David, seated in the back seat was surprised at the cab drivers composure and response. I cannot believe you did not shout back at him, he almost totalled your cab and sent us to hospital David asked breathing so hard and fast. The cab driver responded with the law of the Garbage in answering David’s question. Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, bitterness and resentment. As their garbage piles up, they look for a place to dump it. When you let them, they dump it all on you. Therefore, whenever someone wants to dump on you, do not take it personal. It does not have anything to do with you sometimes. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on with your life or business. You will be happier thereafter. For that matter you have to leave your lid on to avoid people from dumping their garbage in. if they do they will increase on your load and you will also end up looking for someone to dump it on. Although sometimes it will require you to have steal lids because we are living in days where people carry poison, in criticism bad news, anger and resentment. As you move through life’s endeavours make it a priority to keep your lid on, do not accept other people’s garbage, they may dump it because they have a right to but do not allow them to dump it in you, do not receive it.  Therefore no matter what you are going through, you are rewriting your own new song, and as you write, do not let anyone hold the pen for you, do not allow anyone tell your story, have control believe and act, together we shall sing a new song of praise after the storm. Be blessed as you take full control and responsibility over your new life.


Dr. RWAKISETA Herbert,
Founder of Mindlab Africa is
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